“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”
― Rick Warren
Many people confuse pride with confidence. Arrogance with assertiveness. An unwillingness to compromise with decisiveness.
But here’s the real fact of leadership, borne out by countless studies and research on the effect of prideful vs. humble leadership:
Humility vs. Pride: The Truth
Humility is a virtue.
Pride is not.
Humility comes when people are secure.
Pride comes when they are insecure.
A humble leader is a confident leader, knowing who they are and what they do.
A prideful leader is an overconfident leader trying to convince other people that they are good enough to be doing what they are doing.
Humility is strength.
Pride is weakness.
The most humble people never have to prove themselves or hide something.
The most prideful people you’ll meet are always proving themselves and hiding something.
Humility is attractive. It makes people want to follow you.
Pride is obnoxious. It causes people to flee from you.
A humble person understands himself or herself, realistically knowing what they can do well vs. what they cannot do well. Humble people are not afraid to take constructive criticism or counsel, nor do they feel the need to take credit when it is due elsewhere.
A prideful person, however, hasn’t taken the time to truly know themselves. The pride in them makes them want to be someone else and blame others when weakness appears.
Humble people are responsive to their teams, themselves, and others – asking what they can do to improve and respecting others by default.
Proud people are resistant and view everyone else as the problem.
Humble people understand their dependence on friends, family, and colleagues, and then lean into their support for the good of the whole.
Proud people put themselves first and always pursue their own agenda, even at the expense of others.
The Bottom Line
It is better to be humble than proud; secure instead of insecure; confident instead of overconfident, and responsive rather than resistant.
These four ingredients constitute the best recipe for effective, liberating leadership. If you work hard to cultivate these elements within yourself, your team, your organization, and your family, it will pay dividends beyond what you can imagine, both in life and in work.
So take the path less traveled. Do the hard yards.
Cultivate humility and you will become the best version of yourself at work and at home.
This was originally posted by GiANT Worldwide and I wanted to share it here as well. If you’re interested in learning more about how humility and pride can affect your leadership, I’m happy to schedule a meeting to discuss. Just click the contact button and let me know!